Stressing ourselves and our children.
looks into her breathing, her children's breathing and their
children's breathing and comes to some startling conclusions that will
change their lives forever.
"I’ve incorporated many areas of wellness
into my life, and the lives of my children, exercise, holistic
nutrition, spirituality, meditation, yet we continue to struggle in
finding the balance for overall wellness. My children and
grandchildren cope with the stresses of life in the same way I do.
We hold our breaths.
I’ve imprinted various levels of anxiety upon my children and today
I see the impact it has on how we breathe. My daughter says she well
remembers the fear I instilled in her as a child, and she in turn
does the same to her child. Ironically, she tells me my methods kept
her safe, alert and out of a lot of trouble.
I worked in law enforcement for over thirty years. I recall
intentionally instilling fear in my children by telling them stories
of horrifying things that can happen to them if they disobeyed mom’s
instructions or were not aware of their surroundings.
I infused my own levels of fear and anxiety of strangers and certain
family members into my children until I saw those feelings reflected
back at me. It was my way of protecting them from the horrible
incidents I had experienced and witnessed as a child and a cop.
For example, many of us have some unsavory member of the family we
do not want around our children at all. I would pull my children
onto my lap and point the person out and quietly but firmly describe
that person as an evil monster.
I would not be satisfied until I saw my children hold their breaths
and their eyes widen with fear. I always ended the story by telling
them to scream and run if that person ever came near them!
I’ve taught my children how to respond and react to different
stresses of life by using their fight or flight responses. Fight for
it! Work for it! Never give up! Never quit! Run, to fight or live
another day! It’s no wonder our wellness balance is off kilter. I
kept us pumped up on adrenalin for years. I never taught them to
“breathe” through anything!
When stress began to break my body down I introduced yoga,
meditation and spirituality into our lives, but we all struggle with
being able to be still long enough (especially in meditation) for
any real benefits. My daughter suffers from panic attacks; I feel as
if I don’t get enough air, my son is quick to impatience and now my
grandchildren are displaying the same traits.
In my communications with Mike White, and viewing his Optimal
Breathing, UDB page at Breathing.com, and
learning about The Optimal Breathing Wave, I have been convinced his
theories on optimal breathing are a cornerstone of wellness.
Optimal breathing is our missing link. Now, as a grandmother I’m
determined to learn, practice, and introduce this crucial awareness
of breathing into the lives of my offspring to help correct many of
our issues. I would be lacking in my teachings as a parent if I were
to exclude Mike’s theories on Optimal Breathing and UDB, and the
connection it has with hundreds of health conditions.
UDB is Unbalanced Dysfunctional Breathing – Unbalanced Deep
Breathing – Undisclosed Dysfunctional Breathing – Undiagnosed
I took the online breathing test at Breathing.com that measured my
own breathing and I scored “fair.” I’ve realized for some time now
that I have impaired breathing because I breathe into my neck. I
call it “neck-breathing” because it feels as if I’m breathing only
into the end of my neck with very little air getting into my chest.
I am constantly reminding myself to unclench my jaw, loosen the
tongue from the roof of my mouth, and relax my neck and breathe
deep. Even in a relaxed state my neck muscles contract when I
According to the breathing test this is viewed as upper chest
breathing because my neck muscles contract, my jaw clenches and my
collarbone, shoulders and upper chest rises. It does not feel like
I’m getting any air into my chest at all unless I’m concentrating on
I’ve experienced various breathing exercises through yoga and once
with a wellness practitioner. In both cases, I experienced
blockages. In particular, with this practitioner’s “wave-breathing”
I experienced a short period of relief from back pain through deep
I was directed to lie face down on a massage table with a face
holder and breathe deeply for thirty minutes or more. I was to
concentrate and direct the energy of my breath up and down my spinal
It worked at first, and I felt relieved of pain, emotional releases
and the euphoria of being able to breathe so deeply while lying on
After several weeks of practicing deep breathing in this way, I
began to experience being overheated during every session. I’d get
up from the table soaked in sweat as if I had just completed a
I started to experience increased blockages and my back pain
returned, and my neck breathing seemed to increase. I asked about
the blockages, the return of pain and the perspiration.
“You are working hard,” was the response I received as if it was a
good thing. I asked if I was breathing correctly and where should I
be directing my breath. I was told to breathe my breath wherever I
wanted it to go.
I cancelled all future appointments not because their energy
theories do not work; it was no longer working for me. I needed a
more clinical explanation as well as documentation of my symptoms. I
wanted to understand the cause of the blockages and how to fix it.
I’ve been holding my breath and breathing shallowly for years. In
observing my children and grandchildren, I realize that my 12
year-old and her mother may have UDB, as well.
Thanks to Mike White’s breathing development programs I have the
opportunity to learn correct and incorrect breathing. I can use his
techniques to investigate, locate, measure, and correct UDB using
the Optimal Breathing tools to track the progress.
I have been taught to breathe through the pains of giving birth and
broken bones but never through stress and emotional pains. Just hold
it, stuff it, and run it!
I’m looking forward to correcting UDB in myself, and my children,
and to incorporate
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Elizabeth Barrett Browning
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education, and speech, physical, and respiratory therapy."
Dr. Danielle Rose, MD, NMD, SEP